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Feature: Online Matrimonials
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Indian
Internet Matrimony - Dos and Donts -
By: Mrs Gayathri Sanyal (Marriage Consultant) for IndianMillionaireMarriages
.com
Marriage is one of the most important decisions of your
life. Be wary of matrimonial sites.
Don't
s
1) Marriage is a sensitive, personal and private matter.
Don't let any mass market matrimonial websites commoditize
you as a product on a catalogue
2) Don't get carried away by sites that claim they have
millions of members. It is immaterial to you. Multiple choices
are only an illusion. You are unique and there is only one
match and you can marry only one.
3) Don't get carried away by success stories they claim
on their sites. It is irrelevant to you and you cannot validate
their authenticity
4) Don't let automatic software matchmaker programs spam
your mailbox. It will distract you and keep you single for
years. Remember - most mass market matrimonial sites desire
that you remain single so that they can get renewed subscriptions.
5) Don't start exchanging pictures from the beginning however
beautiful or handsome you may be. You spoil your chances
of finding a good match due to a focus on too superficial
parameters. You will end up with the wrong person
6) Establish Trust. Furnish the facts of who you are in
tangible terms so you are not a virtual identity. There
is nothing wrong in sharing a traditional biodata instead
of being abstract.
A generic profile says - I am a doctor. A specific profile
says - I graduated from G.S Medical in 2000 with Ist class
and practice as a pediatrician in Mumbai
7) Exchange each other's pictures if you feel that basic
background is compatible. Don't plaster your picture on
websites. You are demeaning your identity from a multi dimensional
personality to a static, one dimensional image. You attract
or repel someone based on your personality and not your
picture.
8) Don't correspond with multiple profiles simultaneously.
You will not be able to do justice.
9) Don't use Video/ SMS alert or Messenger services to exchange
initial information. SMS shows how abrupt and irresponsible
you are with the most important chapter of your life.
10) Instant Messenger invites parallel processing with multiple
people and leads to no outcome. Use it only after you have
exchanged basic info and would like to pursue a relationship
with someone but have geographic constraints
11) Don't copy other people's profiles just to make the
profile look fancy. Be yourself.
12) Don't just walk away but RUN from websites that offer
multiple distracting popup windows when you are searching
for your partner
13) Don't use websites which offer you the false ego boost
of Declining someone. It is rude, immature and silly.
Dos : KYS Know Your Self
1) List
your strengths and weaknesses
2) List down your key achievements in life
3) List down what you will offer the marriage
4) List down what you value in her/him and what she/he should
value
5) List down your personal and professional future plans
6) List down what you can compromise on in terms of location,
financial status, food habits, religion, mother tongue,
field of work and the likes
7) List down what you cannot compromise on - "must
haves"
Communication
Tips
8) Take
initiative in communication when you find someone of interest
9) Introduce yourself with a traditional biodata
10) Share the KYS with the person across
11) Request for a KYS discussion from the other person
12) Be prompt, patient and mature
13) Be Realistic in your expectations.
Read
rest of the feature
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Headlines and In the News
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Houston
Charity Concert: SPB & Chitra – Live in Concert
2008
Houston,
Texas: On Friday, September 5th 2008, thousands of Indian
music lovers from all over Texas and the South East
are expected to throng the Cullen Performance Hall at
the University of Houston to listen to legendary Indian
playback singers, SP Balasubrahmanyam (SPB) and KS Chithra.
Vibha-Houston is organizing this concert not only for
the love of music but also to raise funds for the 41
child development projects that Vibha supports in India
and the United States.
Vocal
music is one of the oldest and most universal art forms.
A discovery and celebration of one such voice is Sripathi
Panditharadhyula Balasubrahmanyam, popularly known as
SPB. His music transcends all barriers - linguistic,
geographical and chronological. SPB has been honored
with Padmashri, one of the highest civilian awards in
India. So far, SPB has sung over a record 36,000 plus
songs in a span of 39 years, in all languages which
include several albums of contemporary Indian music,
private albums for devotional songs and movies. K. S.
Chithra is a six time Indian National film awards winning
singer who has made her mark in the Indian playback
industry. Known as the "Nightingale of South India",
she has lent her voice to Malayalam, Tamil, Telugu,
Kannada, Oriya, Hindi, Assamese and Bengali films. Recognizing
her contribution to the music world, K S Chithra was
conferred the prestigious Padmashri title by the Government
of India. At the concert, the singers will be accompanied
by a full orchestra.
The
volunteers at the Houston Action Center of Vibha have
been working day and night to make this event a success.
"The stakes are high. For us, it is not just a
concert, it is our way of reaching out and making a
difference in the lives of underprivileged children
half way across the world", says a charged up Sowmita
Narayanan, the Coordinator of Vibha's Houston Action
Center. Concert aside, the main focus of the organization
is child development. Vibha is a volunteer based, non-profit
organization involved in betterment of underprivileged
kids. Fund raising, through various events in 15 action
centers spread across US, is an integral part of Vibha.
The Houston chapter,
formed in 2006, has been highly successful in organizing
events like "While we play" and is very active
in local community activity participation and awareness
campaigns.
The funds raised in the concert will be directed towards
41 projects in India (http://www.vibha.org/projects)
and the US. The focus areas of the projects supported
by Vibha are education, vocational training, eradication
of child labor, girl child related issues, provision
of physical and mental health care and support to children
in vulnerable conditions. Moreover, Vibha also supports
projects that indirectly affect child development, for
example, pre-natal care for women, creating awareness
and influencing policy makers on child related issues.
These projects are selected by volunteers themselves
and strive to make an impact at grass root levels.
For
tickets and more information regarding the concert,
visit http://concert.vibha.org
. You may also be interested in Garamchai.com's
Charity section
American
group promotes silent revolution in rural India
Many
of us in the United States and elsewhere take for granted
that schools provide education which helps build lives,
communities, and economies. Not so in many parts of
rural India. International Labor Organization estimates
that there are 24 million unemployed youth in India.
What is critical is the type of education and quality
of education.
IBT
(Introduction to Basic Technology) is a “Plan
100″ program promoted by New York-based Indian
American group “Lend-A-Hand India.” It has
been a stunning success in training and equipping rural
youth in India with job and life skills to set up and
run viable small entrepreneurial units. It’s now
well on its way to achieving an ambitious plan to equip
20,000 boys and girls across 100 high schools in rural
India with job and life skills.
Many
NGOs claim to be making a difference in the lives of
those whom they serve. But how do you know what’s
really happening on the ground? The folks at Lend-A-Hand
India have produced A Silent Revolution, a brief web
video of the Plan 100 program that brings these impressive
facts and figures to life.
One
sees the youth who are served by the technical, skills,
and entrepreneurial training, in their learning environments.
One hears from the boys and girls themselves, listens
to the parents and other villagers who form the fabric
of the local economies that benefit from their children’s
training and development.
But
the story doesn’t end there. The inspiring documentary
goes on to show - and hear from - actual entrepreneurs
who created businesses and invented products as a result
of their experience in the training they received. Their
track record is such that they even let us hear from
people who graduated from the program ten years ago
as they tell us the difference it has made in their
lives and communities. To top it off, we also hear from
some of the very leaders in local governments and large
corporations who support the Plan 100 program and help
make it possible.
How
often do you get to hear good news about rural India?
How often do you get to hear it from people whose lives
are being changed for the better? Give yourself a treat
for the next 14 minutes. See what’s possible when
good intentions combine with good works. You will enjoy
watching A Silent Revolution now.
Once
you have seen it, just reflect on whether you would
like to have the program extended to the village/district/state
you or your ancestors or your friends hailed from? If
you or your friends would like to bring about a similar
revolution in your (their)preferred village or area,
do let me know and I will put you (them) in touch with
this committed group whose ONLY objective is to ensure
that the youth of India’s villages are trained
to successfully settle down in productive vocations.
Now
enjoy watching: http://video.google.com:80/videoplay?docid=-4673280825423781745&hl=en
or
http://www.vimeo.com/1257780
News
tipoff: Ram Narayanan [US-India
Friendship]
Hindu Temple in America: Priest: Position Vacant
Please
contact directly
HTCC Priest: Position Vacant
Immediate vacancy for a Full Time Hindu Religion Priest:
Position Available at the Hindu Temple and Cultural Center
of Kansas City (HTCC). Applicants must be well versed
with Hindu Religion and should be able to perform all
North Indian and Gujrati religious rituals and ceremonies.
Good communication skills in English, Gujarati and Hindi
is a must. HTCC is an Equal Opportunity Employer. Please
email resume to Sai Chimalakonda (saicvs@gmail.com ) or
Rekha Sheth (mandrsheth@bicdesign.net ). Detailed information
about the temple can be found at the website - www.htccofkc@org.
Error in listing: Temples in Florida
Here
is a note from a GaramChai.com visitor
Hi WebMaster,
I
am Praveen and I am s/w eng came to US on deputation.
I visited yesterday your website for temple address
and found a Siva Mandhir listed in your site at 2001
N. Howard Ave.Tampa, FL 33607.
Taking
for granted that the temple is there, I drove to that
address today and was shocked to find no temple at that
address. I called up the phone number listed there and
they said the temple is no longer there.
Please
remove that listing from your site, so that no new visitors
of your site get wrong information. Also I would strongly
recommend you to enquire about all other temples listed
in your website and remove them which are wrong.
Regards,
Praveen.
Dear Praveen,
Thanks for pointing out the error in our listing and apologies
for your inconvenience.
Our
listings are human-edited and we generally verify the
listings prior to addition. However, when businesses
close (or temples are relocated as in this case), we
have no direct way of knowing unless web-visitors like
yourself take the trouble of mailing us.
The
error has since been rectified in our database.
For
your troubles, I will have either a $5 Amazon certificate
or paypal credit emailed. Please let me know your preference
and hope you will blog about GaramChai.com and continue
to visit us.
Regards
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