Life in Canada: Indian names and Identity

A quick lesson of Canadiana from an outsider who has been on the inside of the workings of a country learning its identity at the same time he learned his.

Essays are usually centered around the principle of arguing a point or side of an argument.  However, this essay derived from the perspective of the feelings of an Indo-Canadian Sikh man who has struggled with one aspect of his character: his name.

I was born Karamveer Singh Hundal, otherwise known as Bablu, and currently as Karam.  This transformation of the name has confused, angered and left me without a sense of self throughout my forty two years of existence.  I have never been Canadian enough to fit in with the Canadians, nor Indian enough to fit in with the Indians.  I am caught somewhere in the middle and my name, which is to serve as my ultimate label has provided me with nothing but confusion and derogatory name-calling over the years.

I was born in 1974 in Toronto.  Forget about the hostilities that Indians faced during these initial years of multiculturalism in a new country, as the notions of equality and freedom were relegated to the select few of the white persuasion.  There was systemic racism everywhere and it filtered down to the streets of the country.  Moreover, the Indian community at the time was very small, so I don’t recall having Indian friends until my school age years.  But, back to the name.  One day, as a baby, my beloved massi decided to squeeze my bubbly cheeks (on my face I assume) and label me Bablu.  The name stuck.  Such that my parents started to call me that for the rest of my life.  I do not ever recall them calling me Karamveer except on the first day of school when my father took me by the hand, and said “Bablu, tell people your name is Karamveer.” The irony didn’t escape me then, nor has it since.  He never actually called me Karamveer.  To this day, he still calls me Bablu, or Bobby for short.  Even though it is endearing, I am not sure how I will feel when I am a grandfather and my grandchildren refer to myself as Bablu baba.

My cheeks are no longer bubbly, but instead covered by a scruffy beard and worn by the wrinkles of time.  Yet I am still referred to as Bablu by my family.  Or is it Bubbloo?  How do you even spell such a ridiculous and juvenile name?  I AM FORTY TWO!  How am I still being referred to by a name given to a baby?

Fast-forward to the 1980’s when I first started to attend school.  My teachers had never met a Karamveer in their white lives of John’s and Joe’s.  By then, since I had only heard my name spoken once, thought with the infinite wisdom of a six-year old and the phonetic lessons I had learned thus far, thought my name was pronounced Kare-am-veer.  How was I to know.  I went on like this until 1993.  A decade of humiliating name-calling and taunting from white kids who did not understand that the name means “working son.”  For about two years of this I was called Can-a-beer or Carebear by my so-called friends.  So much for the radical multiculturalism of Canada.  We mustn’t forget that Canada too has a racist past as much as that of any other nation including the neighbours to the south, the United States.  Even though I too was born and raised in this country, I didn’t even feel like a citizen.  It all stemmed from the fact that I was name-less.  I had no identity.  There were few Indians to identify with, and the so-called open-minded Canadians, couldn’t or wouldn’t learn to pronounce a proud and sophisticated name.

1993 – My first year at university. Here I met several Indians who taught me the correct pronunciation of my name. Karamveer.  Here I was born.  I finally felt accepted.  I had peers who not only respected me but cared for my well-being.  The drinking, drugs and sex-capades notwithstanding, they cared.  For a few years I felt like I belonged.  But that was only tranistory as my ultimate acceptance came from the one source I will always feel like I belong to.

1994 – I met a woman. Her name is Sukhvir, but her nickname is Lado. Not quite ladoo, and not quite pado as I jokingly call her.  We fell in love.  Unbeknownst to me, she started to shorten my name to my beloved Karam.  Before long, I started to introduce myself as this.  I even changed my name at work to reflect this newfound identity.  I have found my true friend and a place where I truly belong.  I cannot picture my life without her and our three beautiful daughters.  I have found a home with her in a country that finally takes the time to learn our true names.  It only took thirty years, but the country that boasts of its multiculturalism has finally learned its lesson of acceptance.

– Guest post by Karamveer “Bablu” Hundal from Canada

Analysis of Punjab Election 2017 Results – Talk with Bhai Ajmer Singh & Bhai Mandhir Singh [Video]

Topic of interest to NRIs from Punjab and elsewhere
Chandigarh: Counting of votes for Punjab State Assembly Elections was held on March 11, 2017 in which Congress party had a surprising victory with a clear majority of 77 seats out of total 117 seats. The Aam Aadmi Party performed much less than expected and it was able to secure 20 seats only. Shiromani Akali Dal (Badal) though faced a massive defeat as it was able to retain 15 seats only but it is considered that it performed did not performed so worst as it was being expected.

Sikh Siyasat News (SSN) editor Parmjeet Singh talked to Sikh political analyst Bhai Ajmer Singh and Sikh youth leader Bhai Mandhir Singh to analyse these electoral results and their possible impact of the Punjab and the Sikhs.
Bhartiya Janta Party (BJP) got a massive victory in assembly election of Uttar Pradesh, the results of which were announced on March 11, 2017. By bagging 325 seats the Hindutva political wing swept the state assembly which has 403 seats in total. Congress, Samajvadi Party and Bahujan Samaj Party are pushed to margins. The BJP contested this election on Hindutva agenda and won with a large majority thus the results of this election hold significance. Sikh Siyasat News (SSN) editor Parmjeet Singh has talked to Sikh political analyst Bhai Ajmer Singh and Sikh youth leader Bhai Mandhir Singh to analyse the results of Uttar Pradesh elections 2017.

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Indian American Congressman urges Sessions to combat hate crimes

Indian American Congressman Raja Krishnamoorthi has urged US Attorney General Jeff Sessions to take immediate action to stop rising hate crimes in the US.

Krishnamoorthi, in a letter, requested Sessions to use his discretion in the Justice Department to thwart the rising incidents of hate and violence in the country, American Bazaar online reported on Thursday.

Congressman Raja Krishnamoorthi
U.S Congressman Raja Krishnamoorthi (source Official house.gov)

“From grave desecration at a Jewish cemetery in St. Louis to a shooting at a bar in Kansas, Americans have been shaken to the core by the recent rise in hate crimes,” Krishnamoorthi said in the letter.

The Indian American community was in a state of shock after a US Navy veteran Adam Purinton shot dead Indian engineer Srinivas Kuchibhotla and injured Alok Madasani in an apparent hate crime on February 22.


More about the issue that is being debated from our prior blogs


Purinton reportedly got into an argument with the two and hurled racial slurs. He yelled “get out of my country” before shooting them.

Several other instances of hate crime were also witnessed in the US. Jewish Community Centres across the country have received bomb threats, and countless Muslims have been harassed and threatened, the Democrat said.

“All Americans must be able to count on the federal government to defend their fundamental rights as citizens of this great republic. If any American is harassed or threatened because of who they are, it harms everyone,” Krishnamoorthi said.

“I respectfully urge you to use the full powers of the Justice Department to investigate and combat this disturbing rise in hate crimes,” he said. “These attacks seek to undermine not just public safety, but the very nature of American exceptionalism.”

He said: “For more than two hundred years, the US has stood as a beacon of freedom from tyranny, oppression, and persecution.”

“A fundamental promise of our nation is that any American — regardless of where you come from, the color of your skin, or how you pray — can trust the federal government to preserve, protect, and defend their rights,” Krishnamoorthi added. (IANS news feed)


About Congressman Raja Krishnamoorthi. Official website https://krishnamoorthi.house.gov/

Congressman Raja Krishnamoorthi was elected in November 2016 to represent the 8th District of Illinois, which includes the west and northwest suburbs of Chicago.  Raja’s policy platform focuses on growing and strengthening the middle class by supporting small businesses, rebuilding our infrastructure, and protecting Social Security and Medicare.  Raja knows our economy works best when it works for all of us, and that’s why he’s fighting to make college more affordable, expand access to paid sick and parental leave, and guarantee equal pay for equal work.”

Check out our earlier feature “Desis in U.S Congress! Indian-American Fab Five formally enter US Congress on Tuesday”

Does Indian Media feels vindicated after Trump condemns techie’s killing ?

The Indian Media sounded like it was vindicated after news of American President Donald Trump condemning the Indian Techie’s killing.

Press Trust of India, from Washington DC posted an article, which was picked up by much of the Indian media “Trump condemns Indian techie’s killing in address to Congress”

About the incident (link): Last week, two Indians were caught in the crosscurrents of racial tension in America while at  a Kansas bar-cum-grill when one American fired seven bullets at them after yelling “get out of my country”, and another tried to stop the gunman.

After the incident, the media, digirati and American policy watchers waited for an announcement by Mr. Trump. (ref: Step up and speak out: Hillary Clinton to Prez Trump on Indian techie’s killing – HT || Trump’s silence ‘disquieting’: Kansas City Star edit on Indian techie’s killing – MSN)

US President Donald Trump on Wednesday broke his silence on the fatal Kansas shooting by stating “America stands united in condemning hate and evil in all its forms.”  Trump added in his address to the joint session of US Congress:

“Recent threats targeting Jewish Community Centers and vandalism of Jewish cemeteries, as well as last week’s shooting in Kansas City, remind us that while we may be a nation divided on policies, we are a country that stands united in condemning hate and evil in all its forms”

A section of the Indian media sounded vindicated by Trump’s acknowledgement:

However, some in the Media also reviewed this as a “half-hearted” acknowledgement of the hate crime. Indian Express Editorial posted :  Trump’s half-hearted mention of hate crimes in joint address hints unwillingness to take action

“His campaign was filled with inflammatory rhetoric and this administration’s policies seem no different. Hate crimes like the Kansas attacks have followed a wave of racist attacks and this wave continues unabated. White House stayed in denial and refused to link the two. Though he mustered up the courage to speak up against hate crimes and anti-semitism emerging again in the country, he didn’t promise any action against the perpetrators.”

Bottomline: this is not the last word on the topic

Return to India : Articles and blogs on returning NRIs

Indians settled overseas frequently muse about “Returning to India.” Even the Indian media frequently runs articles about NRI returnees and their saga.

Here are a couple of articles are making the rounds among digerati.


You may also be interested in GaramChai.com Return to India Section

Nupur Dave, a Technical Program Manager, Google For Work posts an interesting article on LinkedinPulse, titled “Why I Moved Back To India after 10+ Years in USA”

I am, what they call, a US Return. After more than a decade living in the United States, I moved back to India for good.

When I announced I was moving back to India permanently, some of the responses I was given were
* “Are you SURE?”
*”Let’s see how long you last”.
* “I am happy to see you walk the talk”
*”OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG”
* and the insipid “Ok cool”
But why did i move back? Wasn’t it a normal, successful and happy life in the United States?
Yes, but on paper.
I had a job: I worked for Google, consistently rated #1 company to work for. I had status: active in the Indian Googler network, organizing events for thousands of Indian Googlers.

Another post by Mohan, who also contributes to GaramChai takes a more nuanced view of his experience returning to India in this blog “Return to India Musings: when a home becomes a golden egg”

The first thing that hits one after landing back from a stint abroad is the abundance of people. This mass of humanity is visible right outside the exit gates of the swanky Bangalore international airport and carries through on the ride out on the highway where the airport traffic merges with commuters and is magnified as one approaches Hebbal flyover into the city.

After making annual trips back to my hometown from my adopted homeland in America, I recently took a conscious decision to spend an extended period of time in Bangalore. My family story is not atypical of that of scores of other NRIs – aging parents unable to manage on their own due to flailing health, yearning for their offspring’s to be around. Rather than contributing to the emerging market of “old age” homes in India by coaxing my parents to spend their sunset years in one such institution, I thought spending quality time with them was more valuable. Thus my wife, son and I find ourselves back in the bedroom in a home where I spent college years.

Kansas shooting: GoFundMe Raises nearly $ million for Family victims

Our heartfelt condolences go to the families of the victims of Shooting at a Kansas Bar this week ..

About the incident: Two Indians were caught in the crosscurrents of Donald Trump’s America in a Kansas bar-cum-grill on Wednesday evening when one American fired seven bullets at them after yelling “get out of my country”, and another tried to stop the gunman.

Srinivas Kuchibhotla, 32, was declared dead after he was brought to a hospital, while his friend, Alok Reddy Madasani, also 32, survived and was discharged today.


We applaud the courage of Sunayana Dumala, the young widow of the Indian man who was killed in shooting, for standing up in front of the global media demanding justice and answers. We hope the young widow, continues to get her voice heard and justice prevails!


The gunman, 51-year-old US navy veteran Adam Purinton, was on Thursday charged with premeditated first-degree murder and two counts of attempted premeditated first-degree murder. Bond has been set at $2 million.

The attack was probably the first major hate crime the Indian-origin community in the US has faced since Trump took oath as President after a campaign filled with rhetoric against immigrants. His victory had triggered worries of race attacks.

Donation and GoFundMe pages:

Srinu’s Family/Recovery Support – On February 22nd 2017,  an intoxicated man hurling racial slurs opened fire inside a packed Kansas bar killing our dearest friend Srinivas Kuchibhotla. (Raised $601,245 of $150k goal – 26th Feb)

Madasani / Kuchibhotla Relief Fund – Alok Madasani and Srinivas Kuchibhotla, both employees at Garmin, were enjoying their evening at a local sports bar in Olathe, KS when they were confronted with racist, bigoted remarks and ultimately shot as part of what appears to have been a vicious hate crime. ($87,117 of $100k goal – 26th Feb)

Alok Madasani Medical Relief fund – My brother-in-law Alok Reddy, 32, is recovering from his wounds after being shot by a former US Navy veteran, an attack eyewitnesses said could be racially motivated. Alok’s 32-year-old friend, Srinivas Kuchibhotla, was killed in the Austins Bar and Grill in Olathe. Alok and Srinivas were in the bar to cool off and have a beer after work on Wednesday night when they were attacked. They didnt expect that they would fall victims to the violence happened that night. I am raising this campaign to provide financial support for my brother-in-law’s medical expenses. ($13,733 of $75k goal – 26th Feb)

Media reaction :

NRI Event: Playback Singer Arijit Singh Live in Concert April 8th Tampa, Florida

Event announcement: Check out the concert by popular Playback Singer Arijit Singh

Event Date Saturday, April 08, 2017
Name Arijit Singh Live in Concert April 08, 2017 at Amalie Arena in Tampa, FL 8:30PM
Address 401 Channelside Dr, Tampa, FL 33602
Brief Description Arijit Singh Live in Concert April 08, 2017 at Amalie Arena in Tampa, FL 8:30PM
Category Concert Events
Cost $39.00 – $300.00
About Arijit Singh

Arijit Singh is an Indian playback singer, predominantly singing Hindi and Bengali songs. He is praised for his ability of giving soul to lyrics, and “life to a song”. He is known for being shy and emotional and often stays away from limelight despite huge fame and popularity that he enjoys in India.Some of his most popular Hindi songs are “Tum Hi Ho”, “Sanam Re”, “Muskurane Ki Wajah Tum Ho”, “Hamari Adhuri Kahani”, “Hamdard”, “Man Mast Magan”, “Kabira (Encore)”, “Kabhi Jo Badal Barse”, “Samjhawan”, “Sawan Aaya Hai”, “Suno Na Sangemarmar”, “Khamoshiyan”. – Wikipedia


Event organized by  Roshni Productions LLC

Contact 732-333-8116 or email : roshniproductions@gmail.com

Holy Cow: Two sides of the coin. In this case two sides of the new £5 notes with Tallow

A few months ago, Indians and South Asians in Britain,  especially vegetarian Hindus and Jains,  were irked by news that the new currency note – the £5 polymer note – introduced in England contained tallow. Tallow is a rendered form of beef or mutton fat, processed from suet, and is used in candles and soaps.

After the news broke out, Vegetarian Hindus and Vegans in general took offense and took up digital campaigns.  A petition demanding the replacement of the notes with a vegan alternative generated over 130,000 signatures. (change.org). The government and Bank of England began looking into the issue and acknowledged via Twitter that “There is a trace of tallow in the polymer pellets used in the base substrate of the polymer £5 notes” 

Image tweeted by @LabourAnimalRG

So, why is this a big deal for Hindus and Vegetarians?

The National Council of Hindu Temples, summarized the feelings of Desi community in a statement (link):

The oldest of the worlds’ great religious traditions, Hinduism is the only one that worships the Divine equally in both the masculine and feminine. Our agrarian forefathers offered the bull as a symbol of divine righteousness (the male principle), while the cow is a symbol of divine nurturing (the feminine principle). We now, centuries later, still embrace these symbols and hold them close to our hearts to remind us of the path laid out for us by these complementary forces. To handle something from a slaughtered cow would be to insult the Divine Mother, the principle of nurturing and the loving provision of nature. No aware Hindu will willingly or voluntarily do it.

All British Hindus stand at the crossroads of Shreyas and Preyas, and with every donation at a temple, or every aashirwaad given to a new married couple, or every blessing conveyed by a gift of money given to a grandchild, the choice will have to be made again and again. The next time that PM Theresa May, or other Parliamentarians, visit a Hindu temple they too will have to make this choice before contemplating making a symbolic donation, and since great importance is placed upon Indo British Trade in a post Brexit Britain, payments made in a morally, religiously and ethically tainted currency may well acquire a totally different “bhavana” sentiment.

History of Tallow and Hindus

There is a long history of Hindus and Muslims being provoked and angered by the use of animal byproducts, which the modern British leader seem to have forgotten; or wish to ignore. The key reason for “Indian Rebellion of 1857,” a.k.a the mutiny by sepoys (soldiers) of the East India Company’s army on 10 May 1857 was the use of Tallow and lard-greased cartridges. (link)

The British, probably assumed that the values and mores of Indians, especially those of Indian immigrants in the UK changed considerably in the decades since.

The other side of the Tallow note

The British Government and Bank of England began to downplay the issue and used digerati to communicate the fact that there was less than 0.00007g of Tallow per £5 note. In effect, all the banknotes in circulation combined would have less than 23kgs, half the tallow output of an average cow!  Some also argued that currency notes were an outdated concept in a digital age and this shouldn’t be a big deal.

Now comes the news that the Bank of England has refused to yield to pressure from protest groups about its use of animal-derived products in bank notes, saying that it will not pull any of the existing £5 notes from circulation and will print the £10 notes as planned.

“The Bank was not aware of the presence of animal-derived products when it signed the contract with its supplier for the £5 and £10 banknote polymer,” the Bank said in a statement last week.

“When the Bank discovered the presence of these products, its first step was to alert the public and subsequently has been treating the concerns raised by members of the public with the utmost seriousness,” it added.

What next?

Activists were disappointed by the announcement from theBank of England. “The move has disappointed the sizable but vocal Asian minority in England “The Bank keeping tallow, or beef fat, in the new fiver sends a message to vegans, as well as Hindus, Sikhs and Jains, that our values don’t matter”  summarizes an article in Guardian

Vegan and Hindu groups have promised to keep the issue alive, so this is probably not the last word on the topic.

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NRIs have a hard time adopting a child. Maybe this is why

I was reminded of the excruciating process NRIs and OCIs undergo while reading a recent story “NRI woman, two others plotted to kill adopted boy”

People adopt children for different reasons. Some couples do it because they aren’t able to conceive, while others do it for altruistic reasons. Regardless of the reason, adopting a child can be one of the most selfless acts a couple can do.

Adoption of children from India by Non Resident Indians (NRI) or Overseas Citizen of India (OCI) can be especially hard. India has a lot of orphanages with destitute children but the legal system for adoption in India can be painfully slow, especially if the parents happen to be NRI or OCI and hold foreign passports, and intend to take the child out of India. Adoption agencies, at least the genuine ones go by the letter of the law. The excruciating wait can test the will of all but the most spirited prospective parents.

The news account of the recent incident in Times of India goes on to describe:

 

 

The murder of a 12-year-old orphan boy, Gopal Ajani, on February 8 was the result of conspiracy hatched by a London-based NRI woman and two others to adopt the child first, insure him for a huge amount and then eliminate him to claim insurance.Investigation by Keshod police revealed names of NRI woman Aarti Dhir (53) and Nitish Mund (27), both natives of Gurdaspur in Punjab, and Kanwaljit Raizada, a resident of Keshod. Nitish and Raizada were studying together in London and were sharing a room there. Aarti was their neighbour and works in a watch showroom. The trio had been hatching this conspiracy since 2015 when they met in London, said Ashok Tilva, police inspector.

“After the adoption formalities of Gopal were completed, they had taken a life insurance of Rs 1.30 crore for the boy. The insurance money was to be shared among the three in proportion to the premium they contributed. They had also paid two premiums of Rs 13 lakh each,” Tilva told TOI.

What makes humans commit such ghastly acts for money is beyond comprehension. Stories like these, when done in the backdrop of noble act of adoption is all the more heart wrenching. It makes one empathize with the bureaucracy put in place to safeguard interests of adoptees.


Other links of interest

Facebook spells love story for this septuagenarian NRI

Teenage love stories are common as are the stories of Cupid’s arrows being shot across the internet. But rare indeed is the septuagenarian couple, falling in love on Facebook and ending up in a wedlock in Jamui district.

Satrughan Prasad Singh, 77, an engineer by profession, left his Ghovghat village in Jamui in 1960s after completing his engineering studies in Kolkata and settled in Germany with his wife. She, unfortunately, died in 2014.

Call it destiny or hand of technology, a depressed Singh met 75-year-old German woman Edeltrud Habib on Facebook and developed a friendship with her. That soon morphed into an old-age love story.

“Soon we fell in love and decided to live as life partners. Now we are married,” said a joyous Singh. Habib’s husband died five years ago.

“The marriage ceremony was held in a temple with austerity as per the age-old Hindu rituals on Sunday, and it was attended by his family members and other relatives,” Mahender Singh, a relative of newly-wed Singh, said.

Singh retired 16 years ago after he worked for 38 years in Germany while Habib retired from a judicial service. Singh recalled that after their friendship on Facebook, he met Habib at an airport in Germany.

“I am happy that my family, relatives and others welcomed my decision and helped us to become a couple,” he said. Habib said she would try to learn Hindi and would re-visit Singh’s native place.

“I love Indian people, their traditions, culture and heart-warming behaviour,” she said.

The newly-wed septuagenarian couple will after a few days return to Germany to begin a new life there.

article from TimesofIndia